Co-dependency has long been something people struggle with in personal relationships. Not always realising it, but most of us are guilty of being co-dependent, and especially in business. Without thinking about it too much, how many times do you look to others to gain approval? Is your self-esteem boosted by helping others? Do you feel overly responsible for others and think it’s your job to save them?
There are signs everywhere that will confirm the levels of co-dependency that currently exist. Having been guilty of this too, I have not only recognised it, but developed some helpful tools and approaches that will assist others to reduce their co-dependency. In business, being able to change these ‘habits’ is challenging, but proven to be worthwhile. It is important to find your own inner strength and voice, and to discover an easier way to become more positive and confident.
By acknowledging your co-dependency, you will immediately start noticing the areas to address. Start putting yourself first; admit what you don’t know, saying yes all the time is not necessary; ask for what you need; acknowledge what is outside of your control; care less about what people think or what they are doing. These small wins can make a marked difference to how you, not only approach your personal relationships, but definitely in business too.
It is often one of our biggest stumbling blocks, not to take business personally and put your ‘all on the line’ to win favour or to succeed at all costs. At the end of the day, no amount of sacrifice on a personal level will guarantee your long term success. Rather spend time learning new skills, examining your close relationships and the behaviours that exists, and invest time in making positive changes for yourself. Give someone permission to help you break this very limiting pattern; know that it is OK to ask for help and also recognise and learn when to ask for help. While no man is island, no business is either, so pick your tribe wisely, be open to assistance and be brave enough to break a damaging cycle of co-dependency. Growth comes in taking responsibility.
